Marginalized?

May 23, 2008 at 4:56 PM
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Am I the only female alive who has absolutely no use for Sex and the City, either the TV show or the movie? I mean really, I have to admit I've never seen it, but what is the appeal of watching women with perfect bodies be promiscuous and then bragging about it? I guess if I'm a prude then I'm ok with that.

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The title of the show is really so misleading. It's a fantastic show with very deep and valid plots that definitely do not all revolve around sex. And believe me, NONE of the girls are promiscuous, think they have perfect bodies and do not brag (except for Samantha) but she's part of the fun of the show! I never watched it much when it was on HBO but when they cleaned it up and moved it to TBS I really got hooked on it. What TBS did was prove that the characters are so well-developed and the storylines so good that the show could stand on it's own without all of the simulated sex and unnecessary profanity they removed from the original HBO versions. It's a great show and it's not so much about sex as it is about 4 women, their friendship, their lives, their loves, their careers, their insecurities and triumphs and living in New York City. Over the course of the seasons 2 of them get married (Miranda and Charlotte, twice), one has a baby (Miranda), one finds out she can't have a baby (Charlotte), one gets breast cancer (Samantha), and one just can't get over this one guy who comes in and out of her life like a tornado (Carrie and Mr. Big). FANTASTIC storylines, totally addictive and pretty darn true to life if you remove the designer shoes!

Trust me on this and give it a try. I've even got my Mom watching it and believe me she is DEFINITELY a prude. She was pleasantly surprised.

LOL @ your last paragraph. Maybe it is better than I think, then.

I don't particularly like SatC because I feel the show promotes a very un-feminist portrayal of four women who hang their lives on men and shopping. So many people thought this was a revolutionary feminist show, but I thought, how does having no emotions to regards to sex (like men, apparently) do anything for women? Women acting like men is not feminism.

I must be a prude, too, apparently.

Never seen it, don't feel like I'm missing anything.

I'm with you, Cori, and Gram P

Never watched it and have no desire to see it. If that's so wrong, I don't want to be right! ;)

I agree with Cori. I've seen every episode from Season 3 on and while it was (relatively) entertaining and even had some (relatively) profound moments by Season 6 -- which is the only season that I thought was actually good -- I can do without it. Fact of the matter is, they are promiscuous -- there was even an episode about Samantha deciding she has slept with every straight, eligible man in New York -- and like Cori said, their lives do revolve around sex and, in Carrie's case, shoes. I don't consider myself very prudish at all as far as what I'll watch, as long as it is realistically portrayed, and I lost track of how many episodes shocked me.

It's not everyone's cup of tea, but I will say that as someone who lived in NYC (albeit only a summer), was single (though sexless) for many years, and who does turn her head at a beautiful shoe, I have really enjoyed the series. But, mostly I like the show for their portrayal of enduring female friendships. That part always seemed very genuine and went beyond the glossy-ness, and ultimately was why I tuned in.

Geez Ladies! Lighten up! It's a great show, wildly entertaining and very popular. Otherwise it would not be in syndication AND one of the most anticipated movies of the year! Samantha is the only one who is promiscuous and like I said, she makes the show a little raunchy and fun, but when she is diagnosed with breast cancer AND realizes that she's in love for the first time in her life? Come on that is good drama! Feminism...sheminism...so what? Who cares? They are all extremely successful professionals in their respective careers but all are still so unsure of who they are or who they want to be:

Miranda - lawyer, tough, independent...then she meets Steve...this goofy guy who can't make rent...but she falls for him head over heels

Charlotte - has this fairy tale idea of how her life should be, marries up to Park Avenue and winds up with a Mama's boy with a controlling Mama to boot...divorces him...winds up married to her Jewish lawyer who handled her divorce and finds love ever after?

Samantha - the harlett of NYC does everything she can find, then in her superficial vein goes to have breast implants done when she finds out she has breast cancer...already living with one of her beautiful male models who is head over heels in love with her, but she never says the 'L' word....but then she finally does

Carrie - tormented by Mr. Big as she moves in and out of relationships, can't we all relate to that one guy that just won't get out of our head or our bed? The one that just keeps coming back like a merry-go-round (I know I had one like that...eventually he went away for good, but we went around A LOT)...and the shoes thing...yes she's got a shoe fettish...but she's also written bad checks to pay for them...can't we all relate to that?

Unset your judgmental jaw and just succumb to this show and you might just find that you enjoy it! It's just a nighttime soap opera and not meant to define ALL women or anything so heavy as that...I love it and have a standing date to see the movie with my 17 year old Daughter and my 73 year old Mother.

Gee, why does the term "judgmental" get thrown around when someone doesn't like something that another person likes? If you want to love Sex and the City, that is entirely your right. I don't like it, and that's entirely my right, but for you to criticize and label people on someone else's blog is a bit...bold.

I didn't mean that it was this horrible show with no redeeming values. Humor? Fantastic! Friendships? Wonderful! The writing was very good as well. I just have a hard time getting behind something that is, to me, doesn't do much that's pro-feminism. They have great jobs, but they always seemed to be overshadowed by men and designer clothes. I guess had it not been heralded as such a feminist powerhouse (which it always seemed to me -- I have never heard it referred to as a soap opera before), I wouldn't be so vocal about it.

I don't disagree that it was an entertaining show. I just feel like it's not what people make it out to be. :-\

Fact of the matter is, they are promiscuous -- there was even an episode about Samantha deciding she has slept with every straight, eligible man in New York -- and like Cori said, their lives do revolve around sex and, in Carrie's case, shoes

your own words....all very judgmental and indicative of someone who hasn't really watched the show and gotten the full effect which is NOT about sex and WHAT is so wrong with women loving shoes?

Excuse me for voicing my opinion on 'someone else's blog'. I thought this was a conversation that Mello started. I was just responding.

**Promiscuous: Having sexual relations with a number of partners on a casual basis.

**Judgmental: Tending to make a moral judgment.

I just re-read my comment. I stated that the four main characters were promiscuous. Which, according to the dictionary's definition -- not mine -- they are. I stated that I didn't like the show. Nowhere did I say, OH MY GOSH, those women are evil and are going to hell because they sleep around. That? Yeah, that would be me being judgmental.

Oh. And I've seen 64 out of 94 episodes. I think I'm well qualified to state my own opinion.

For the record I don't make any moral judgments about people who watch it or enjoy it. I just don't have Showtime or HBO or whatever it's on and do not have time to rent the series to catch up. I think I've seen maybe 1 part of 1 episode in re-run. It just wasn't for me. I was truly shocked that I heard it was in it's 10th season. It still seems like a new show to me.

I was annoyed when it kept getting awards. Mostly, because I didn't have HBO and had never seen it. When it went to TNT, I started catching reruns. It's hysterical. I guess I don't know how much it's been cleaned up compared to the original versions. I'm anxious to see the movie.

Well, as the only guy on the comment list so far, I can say that there's worse thing than watching four attractive women being funny. My problem with the show was that somewhere in the middle, it went from being a comedy-soap to a soap-comedy... all I wanted was wry commentary on modern life (even self-obsessed, urban modern life...), but the writing and stories began to fail and so I tuned out.

I got hooked on it for awhile. It's like any other soap-opera...once you get to know the characters you want to "see what happens next!" Desperate Housewives & The Young & the Restless are a couple other shows that aren't really good moral shows...but what can I say...I enjoy them!

Boy Mello you seem to have hit a nerve here! Last I checked it is JUST a TV show & now movie. Hopfully none of our lives resemble what is depicted. And last I knew Hollywood was not trying to be moral.

I sure did hit a nerve, didn't I? I didn't expect to!

And last I knew Hollywood was not trying to be moral. You definitely have a point there. I guess what bothered me and prompted my post is that I heard a news blip the other day that there are girls/women out there who admit that they have, even to a small degree, tried to emulate the women on that show. Ugh.

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LOL. I've never really gotten into the show - I've caught a few episodes that had me laughing hysterically and a few others that just didn't hold my attention at all. I do remember when I was single again in my mid-30's after my marriage ended though, watching an episode with my girlfriends and going "this is soooo not what being 30 and single is like .. being 30 and single is mowing your own lawn and dodging drooly rednecks in bars and being so broke you have to fix your bra straps with a safety pin. How in the HECK are they buying $400 shoes?!"

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